As much as we may wish otherwise, not all marriages have happy endings. Over time, spouses can grow so far apart in their desires and values that a divorce becomes a necessary means to foster each other’s long-term happiness. With that being said, the decision to divorce is never an easy one. Before you take steps towards dissolving your marriage, it is important you take a step back and consider several different factors.
Ask yourself the following questions:
- Is a divorce really what I want? – It can be difficult to tell the difference between wanting a divorce and simply wanting a better marriage. We’ve heard it time and time again: marriage is not always sunshine and rainbows. All couples will fall on hard times sooner or later, though if your issues cut to the heart of your relationship and create a serious divide which cannot be repaired, a divorce may be a reasonable option. If not, you may wish to try legal separation before moving towards an official divorce. It is important you speak to your attorney to find out which option is most appropriate for your situation.
- Have all options to heal your marriage been exhausted? – One of the most common regrets people experience following a divorce is a feeling that they did not make a great enough effort to save their marriage while they still could. If you still believe that your marriage can be salvaged, you may want to delay pursuing a divorce and make a final attempt to mend things between you and your spouse. Try seeing a marriage counselor and reevaluate your situation if things do not improve.
- How will my kids be affected? – Many couples delay getting a divorce out of fear of how their split would affect their children. Unfortunately, this can end up just making matters worse for all parties involved. If you and your spouse share children, however, it is still important you weigh the impact that your split will have on their lives. Where will they live? Will one or both of you want or deserve child custody? What about child support? The more you plan, the less pressure your children will likely experience in the event that you should indeed choose to divorce.
- Where will I go? – Living with your spouse while going through a divorce is about as far from an ideal situation as you can possibly get. As such, it is important you evaluate your options regarding where you will be able to stay during the process of your divorce until you can figure out a permanent solution. While your spouse may have already made arrangements for somewhere for them to go, do not rely on them to take the initiative.
- Will litigation be necessary? – Not all divorces have to turn into heated legal battles in court. In fact, many divorces can be solved through the use of out-of-court negotiations and mediation. Do you and your spouse get along despite your desire to divorce, or do you believe that the process of divorce will likely turn into a legal battle? While it is highly recommended you make ever available effort to solve your divorce through peaceful means, it is better to be safe and prepare for the worst.
If you are unsure if it is time for you and your spouse to part ways, or if you have already decided to file for divorce and are unsure where to start, the Clarksville divorce lawyers at Patton | Pittman Attorneys at Law are here to help. With more than 75 years of combined family law experience and an AV® Preeminent™ Rating by Martindale-Hubbell® for exceptional ethics and skills, we have what it takes to guide towards a smooth solution for your situation.
Call (931) 361-4477 or contact us online today to discuss your legal options.